I have now returned to Washington, after a fabulous vacation in Montenegro. The trip has given me new perspective on several things. Mostly that we in the West take many things for granted. I had thought that before I left, but now I know that for sure.
Firstly, in the West when we say we lack resources we are generally talking money. In Montenegro they are talking both volunteers and budget. They have trouble getting volunteers for two reasons: because they have a law that requires them to have contracts with “volunteers” and because volunteers are seen as weird and unusual. I thought to myself the very idea of having a contract with volunteers is counter to the concept of “volunteering.” And because few volunteer due to the cultural legacy of socialism and the state taking care of everything, those who do volunteer are seen as unusual. We in the U.S. have a culture of volunteerism that we teach at the youngest of ages. It seems normal but we should know that it is not the norm in the entire world.
Secondly, in the world of health, we have many celebrities and role models willing to step up and discuss their illnesses and diseases. In Montenegro I was told that people do not discuss their illnesses, sometimes even with their own family. They stay close to home until they are well and do not discuss their issues with anyone, let alone go to a support group. We are lucky that more and more, role models and celebrities are willing to discuss their illnesses and give of their time to educate others. In addition, we have a support group for almost every disease that exists. For example, many breast cancer patients will walk around proudly with a bald head and have a choice of support groups to attend. In Montenegro you generally would not see bald heads out in the street and no support groups exist. To me it is very sad that people who are sick, who need support the most, have very few people to turn to due to stigma of illness.
Thirdly, while we sometimes get frustrated with our government and wish the outcomes of projects were different, we generally know the rules of engagement with the government. There are laws that exist for comment periods after a proposed rule as well as clear timeframes are established for feedback from the government. In Montenegro, hard working NGOs can submit comments to the government on an issue and may never hear back or have their comments acknowledged. That seems very frustrating. We think it is normal to have all these rules set up to promote public engagement and prevent abuse by government, it is not. Transparency in the U.S. is generally the norm, not the exception.
But mostly what I had taken for granted, is that in the U.S. generally if you work hard, you can be successful regardless of your family or connections. They of course help but I know I control my own life path, not my heritage and family name. It never occurred to me that because I was born to a certain family that my prospects were limited. My parents gave me self confidence and an education, and then I set on my way to build my life. In Montenegro an education and confidence does not appear to be enough.
I left Montenegro feeling hopeful that they will fully embrace democracy, with all the good and the bad it brings. I have to remind myself it has taken many, many years for our government and society to evolve and I have no doubt that Montenegro will, it’s just a matter of time! The importance of time should not be taken for granted!